If you're looking into getting the spark back into your relationship, it means you care enough about your partner to put effort into making them happy. Here are five ways to get the spark back.
Surprise them
As humans we yearn for a comfortable routine, and our relationships are no exceptions to the rule. It's common for your relationship to feel less exciting compared to the first couple of months or years.
You want to think about ways to surprise them like how you did at the beginning of the relationship. This could be sending flowers while they're at work, cooking dinner at home in a romantic setting or taking them out on a date that night without them knowing. Doing small things like this show you care.
Talk and listen to them
In the hectic nature of work, school or kids, it may be hard to find quality time to talk to your partner about how they are feeling. It may not seem like a lot, but emotional well-being is extremely important to a healthy relationship.
Take time at the end of the day to ask your partner how their day was, how they are feeling and about future goals they might have.
In a relationship, it's important to set goals for one another -- like moving in together or getting higher paying jobs. Showing your partner that you genuinely care about their well-being goes a long way.
Try new things together
One of the most exciting things about being in a new relationship is the adventures you take together. Set up date nights where you try something new every time you two go out.
Some ideas can be:
- Go-karting
- Horseback riding
- Riding a motorcycle
- A walk through the park to get some fresh air
Don't be afraid to try new things with your partner -- you can't fully enjoy life if you don't do something that scares you.
Don't forget about physical cues
All relationships have an important physical aspect to them besides sex. Physical cues like a strong hug, holding hands or massages allow for the release of oxytocin. When our body naturally releases oxytocin, it lowers blood pressure, reduces stress and stops anxiety.
These physical cues with your partner serve as little reminders that you care. Small things can go a long way.
Change your appearance
When we stay in a relationship for a prolonged amount of time, we might let ourselves go by gaining weight, dressing down or paying little attention to our physical appearance. In a relationship, those things tend not to matter, but you want to portray to your partner that you care about your own appearance for their sake.
Go out and get a shave or a blowout. Maybe get a new outfit or think about living a healthier lifestyle. Your partner loves you no matter what, but seeing you as a better version of yourself will inspire them to be better, too.