Once you've decided she's the one you're meant to be with forever, it's time to plan the proposal. This can be the scariest part of the whole endeavor. What if she says no? What if she's not ready yet? What if she doesn't like the ring you picked out? Take a breath and savor this moment. The proposal is something she'll remember for the rest of her life and a story she'll recount for years to come. Before you drop to one knee and pop the big question, prepare yourself fully.
Groundwork
Have you brought marriage up before? It's not a great idea to jump without looking, so broach the topic before buying a ring. Take the time to discuss the future and if she sees you in it. Ask her friends if she brings it up in passing - but be cautious confiding in someone who can't keep your secret. The more people know what you're planning, the more you risk her finding out. It's important to note, that even though it's no longer necessary, it's respectful to inform her parents first. If she's a traditional bride or just extremely close to her family, notify them of your intentions. They might even have some ideas for you!
Mental preparation
When you talk about whether she's ready for marriage, you can also ask if she ever thought about what kind of engagement ring she'd want. Chances are that she knows the exact setting, cut, and style she's interested in. She probably saved a bunch of examples to her Pinterest board. Even if she helps pick out the rock, you can make the proposal itself a surprise. You will also want to prepare what you'll say when the time comes. It may feel silly to practice, but your nerves will muddle your mind. You should be self-assured, not struggling! Tell her why you're choosing her to be your future wife. Proposals should include more than "Will you marry me?"
Plan of execution
Pick a location that's personal significant for you as a couple - where you met, a favorite vacation spot, the site you shared your first kiss. It can be simple or complex as long as it's creative. Hire a band to play. Ask a local production to allow you on stage during curtain calls. Employ your friends to execute a flash mob. Give her something more than she expects and incorporate your personality into it! If she's introverted, plan something intimate and private. If she has a flair for the dramatic, create a flashy, public spectacle.
Post-proposal celebration
Don't concentrate so much on dropping to one knee that you forget what comes afterwards. You both deserve to celebrate! If you're already at a restaurant, order some special wine. If you're at a park, reserve a table somewhere close. If you know she'll want to share it with everyone, invite your friends out for drinks. This step is just as important as the actual proposal itself.
