Landing a hot date is great. What's even better? Landing a hot date that you can completely vibe with. A good vibe is when there's effortless conversation that's intellectually stimulating and engaging. You'll know a good vibe because the chemistry flows naturally, and their energy adds fuel to your fire. How can you tell early in the date whether your date's energy level matches yours? Below are three principles that can help guide you.
You can be yourself - your best self.
Matching energy vibrations mean that you like the person you are when your date is around. There are a couple of layers to this first guiding principle. Do you find yourself having to switch up aspects of your personality in their presence? If you have to be a different person around your date, chances are this person isn't a great match for you. If you can't be the version of yourself that you naturally are around your date, then the game of charades isn't realistic for the long haul.
The second layer of this principle addresses the "best self" point. When your date is around, do you feel anxiety in the pit of your stomach? This feeling is beyond just the typical first date jitters. Do you find yourself having to force a smile? If the answer is yes to the above, then you should reconsider this union. Ideally, the energy between the two of you should be calm and pleasant.
The conversation flows freely.
Once you've successfully checked your internal energy when you're around your date, it's time to test outward signs of whether your energy levels match. The easiest external energy match test is whether the conversation flows freely. The two of your are able to sit and talk for hours if time permits. You feel that you can talk about anything and agree on most subjects. The conversation is full of heartwarming laughter, and you two move from subject to subject organically. If there are instances where you have differing opinions, you are still intrigued by the way your date can walk you through their thoughts. Disagreements never get too messy because the two of you should share the same core beliefs, ideals, values, and ethics.
You accept them, flaws and all.
The next litmus test for whether your date's energy is a good match is if you fully accept them for who they are. Think about the three most annoying aspects of their personality. Now, ask yourself, "Can I live with these things?" If the answer is yes, then you could be in a position for a long-standing relationship. You realize you're at complete peace with who they are because you don't expend a great deal of time trying to mold them into the ideal mate. There may be things about this person that you've found to be annoying or non-negotiables in other relationships. Since your energy vibrates at such a high frequency with this person, you're more willing to overlook those annoyances. This relationship feels different. This relationship feels easy. Your energies are certainly in sync.
Take these guidelines with you as you navigate the dating pool to test whether your energies are aligned. Remember, you should be your best self, the communication should flow effortlessly, and you can easily overlook the small stuff! Use these principles as your mental checklist to pinpoint the long haul potentials.