Love is the most beautiful thing in the world, but heartbreak can change everything. The feeling of getting hurt may fill your heart with fear. If you are having a tough time connecting to someone new in life, chances are you're afraid to fall in love again.
The end of a relationship could have far-reaching repercussions. While some shut themselves down emotionally, others refuse to take relationships seriously. But why does this happen? Why is falling in love so scary after a break-up? Here are some reasons that would answer all such questions.
1. You fear vulnerability
Falling in love implies sharing of all kinds of emotions. And when this love grows, you are exposed to getting hurt. If your ex-partner didn't care enough about your emotions, you'll be reluctant to open up to someone new. You'll refrain from getting emotional and won't be ready to let the other person witness your vulnerability in any way.
2. You can't get over your ex
When a relationship ends, it doesn't necessarily mean that it's over for both partners. It's possible that your ex moved on easily while you are still stuck in the past. You may want to avoid getting into a new relationship, because it would end the possibility of you two being together. And if you can't wrap your head around the fact that it's over, the fear of losing that love forever will keep lingering in your heart. It's important to get over your ex if you want to rediscover the beauty of love.
3. You feel insecure
Break-ups are always hard, and it gets even worse if your partner is the one asking for it. If you have issues like low self-esteem and insecurity, you may find it extremely hard to cope up with such situations. You might end up blaming yourself for everything that goes wrong and end up skeptical about getting on board with a new partner. You would find yourself sabotaging your own dating life and eliminating all possibilities of finding love again.
4. You are emotionally exhausted
You give your lover everything he asks for, or you go beyond your capabilities to show her how much she means to you. But when your loved one doesn't reciprocate with the same level of commitment, you realize that the relationship isn't worth your efforts. You'll be emotionally drained and find it strenuous to commit to someone else all over again. It takes too much to cross that emotional threshold again as you are not sure whether the new person would respect your emotional stature.
5. You are afraid of hurting someone
If you are a person who puts yourself first, you are bound to go through some struggle in your love life. People tend to believe that love is selfless, and your partner may expect the same kind of selflessness from you. It's even worse when your partner is being totally selfless, but you can't seem to put them above your own interests. After one failed attempt, you may not want to get involved with someone if the relationship might end up hurting them. Also, it would make you look bad, and no one likes to have that weighing down their conscience.
6. You have a dark past
A dark past could mean anything. It could be related to a previous relationship or something that might have happened with you that no one knows about. If you have any such secret in your heart, you would be unwilling to unravel what's hidden inside you. The reason could be either that the person won't understand the gravity of the situation or that they would not accept your reality.
There could be endless factors that would stop you from going down the road of finding love again. A crazy ex, an ugly break-up or some serious issues related to self-worth; whatever the reason, just remember that it's not all your fault. Shed all your inhibitions, start a new relationship and give yourself every joy that you deserve. The sun will shine again, and love will again knock on your door only to embrace you in its beautiful world.