Sometimes life may give you situations that you are not ready to face. Whether it's a broken relationship, unrequited love, a personal loss, or a traumatizing experience; there are several reasons that can make life miserable. And when you fail to deal with it, things get worse. You stop believing in yourself and feel like giving up. Even talking to your loved ones may seem futile. While everyone will tell you to move on, you may feel like nobody understands you anymore.
It’s easy to advise others. But when it’s our own life, we fail to practice what we preach. Ultimately, everyone wants to get past the suffering but what’s important is that you must prepare yourself to go through the process and embrace the change. Although it takes much more than some wise words to move on in life, a thorough and unconditional support goes a long way in helping someone get over the past.
If you wish to let go of the past or know someone who is going through such a point in life, here are some encouraging quotes for moving on in life that may help:
1. There is love in letting go.
You hold onto people because you love them. You cannot imagine your life without them. But love is not just about getting what you want. It’s also about understanding what makes the other person happy. Unrequited love may make you feel heart broken and hurt but the truth is that you cannot make someone want something they don’t even need. Of course, it will not be easy to let them go, but after a point, you’ll realize how important it is. If the other person doesn’t reciprocate now, they never will. So, when you let someone go, it’s because you truly love them, and their happiness matters to you.
2. Stop looking for happiness where you lost it.
If you keep going back to someone you’re not supposed to be with, you may find yourself trapped in a loop of emotions of love and regret. You need to remember that things didn’t work out for a reason. The place you are going back to is the same place where all the suffering started. Being with them again may give you a temporary relief or happiness but in this process, you can’t keep harming your self-worth. Ask yourself if going back and forth is worth all the pain and you’ll have your answer.
3. Don’t quit in the middle.
A mistake done in the past can be your source of learning. Whenever you think about the past, treat it as a lesson. Don’t be embarrassed about it. What’s done is done, it can never come back. It cannot harm you unless you give it any importance. When you learn your lesson, you can use it to avoid any similar mistakes in the future. But you have to make sure that you can’t quit in between the process.
4. Don’t look back.
If you want to move forward in life, you can’t keep looking back. It will only make you fall, and you might miss what you deserve. You need to identify the opportunities in front of you and ignore what’s left behind. If you keep wondering about the past, you’ll not be able to enjoy the happiness that you’re about to receive in the future. The more determined you are to go ahead, the easier it will be to forget the past.
5. Be strong enough to let go.
Never let anyone else decide your worth. Love yourself and identify what’s best for you. You are powerful enough to let go of the memories. And you are wise enough to know what you deserve. Make the right decision at the right time and you’ll be able to embrace life with all its ups and downs. You just need to wait for the good things in life. Tell yourself that you deserve the best and trust yourself. There’s no reason good enough to lose hope.
6. Smile because it happened.
Your choices can make you or break you. Rather than mourning for what you lost, you can recount all the happy memories that you spent with the other person. When you remember a loved one, try to remember their happy face, their smile, and the special moments. Don’t associate their memories with your suffering and pain. Think of them in your good times and remember all the positivity they brought into your life.
7. Life will reward you with a new hello.
You cannot replace someone with a new person without a proper closure. If you want to move on from a breakup, it's important to accept the reality and embrace the change. Give yourself time to feel everything you want to. Don’t live in denial and don’t reject your thoughts. When you go through the thoughts repeatedly, at some point, you’ll find the courage to say goodbye. It takes courage to bid farewell to a person who has been such an important part of your life, but you never know what the future holds for you. Maybe the best is yet to come, and this is how it will start!
8. Some people can't stay in your life.
You don’t always get what you want. No matter how much you plan, life will always have its own ways of surprising you. All you need is the acceptance and acknowledgement that not everyone is meant to stay in your life. You can always keep them and their memories in your heart but keeping them in your life may not be under your control. The expectation is often different from the reality and the sooner you make peace with it, the easier it is to deal with it.
9. Reach for something new.
As long as you are occupied with memories of the past, you won’t be able to welcome anything new in life. Maybe what you are holding onto isn’t even worth your attention and what’s waiting for you in future is the right thing for you. You must make a choice between and decide for yourself. Life can be harsh but even the bad times are bound to end someday. So, don’t lose hope and make the most of what you get.
10. Forgive and move on.
It’s very important to forgive when you wish to move on in life. If you want to get over someone, the first thing you need to do is to forgive them for what they did to you. Don’t allow someone else’s mistakes ruin your life. Disassociate yourself from their shortcomings and give yourself the gift of moving on. Self-love and self-worth are extremely important to be happy in life.