"In my opinion, the best thing you can do is find someone who loves you for exactly what you are. Good mood, bad mood, ugly, pretty, handsome, what have you."
It's never easy to start a new relationship. And in the modern world, it’s even harder. We can see many millennials complaining about this a lot. But do you know why is it so hard to find real love? Well, we have a couple of answers to that.
In this visual generation, everything has been carved down to looks. We swipe right or left on the dating app after two seconds of seeing someone’s face, and (maybe) reading a short description about them. We go after the person looks best in their selfies and neglect the one we truly need. But remember, "Nothing beats the feeling of being in love and being loved." So look for someone who truly loves for what you are.
An American writer Diablo Cody once said that “In my opinion, the best thing you can do is find a person who loves you for exactly what you are. Good mood, bad mood, ugly, pretty, handsome, what have you, the right person will still think the sun shines out your ass. That's the kind of person that's worth sticking with.”
It means that you should find the person who fully respects you, who makes you a priority, who truly accept your strengths, your weakness, and all the things that make you who you are.
True love is all about accepting each other's flaws.
Everyone has a past and things that they carry with them. These past experiences make them who they are in the present. You love them no matter what. But it is not said that you must accept everything when you’re in love and in your relationship.
When you’re in a healthy relationship, rules are different. You love each other, so you need to understand and accept each other’s apologies. For the relationship to continue, you have to be able to forgive and move on. Sometimes, people will make mistakes because they are mad at something else in their life or about their past. So understand that they hurt you only because they have not figured out what they want or received closure. Be patient and understand the other person’s situation and stay by their side to help them out.
True love is never perfect. It just feels perfect
If you truly love someone, you should never expect them to change. Because love is unconditional, and your partner should never ask you to change if you’re truly loved. You both got into a relationship because you liked each other and grew to love each other as you are. Why would you need to change someone you love so deeply? Show your love to your partner and accept them as they are, and you’ll get the same in return.
Love the person for who they are on the inside.
What makes you fall in love with someone in the first place? It’s not their physical appearance but it’s what’s inside them - their heart and soul, their personality, their smile and the little things that make them special. So find the person who can see into your heart and the beauty of who you are.
True love is not blind. In fact, it helps people to see everything that they’ve been missing all their life: a unique and special soul who will bring genuine happiness and joy to their days.
Love someone and accept them for everything that they are.
To have a healthy and happy relationship, you need to genuinely accept your partner for who they are. Here are some important things you can do to accept your love for everything that they are.
Respect your partner as a person and accept them as an equal: Love your partner the way you want to be loved and be thankful that you have someone like them in your life.
Accept your partner’s imperfections and embrace their flaws: When you truly love someone, don't point out their weakness and make a fuss about it. Instead, understand and accept them because it's their true identity.
Don’t force your partner to change but guide them to be better: We’re human beings, we’re never going to be the same always, but being patient and accepting each other’s flaws is something that never stops you from growing with one another.
Be proud of your partner for who they are: Get to know your partner’s past and the struggles that they have bravely faced, compliment them for a job well done. This makes your relationship strong and happy.
Remember, there is no other ideal and sweet act to show your love for someone than to tell them that they are perfect in their own imperfect way.
So, if you are looking for true love, accept the person completely, make sure your friends know about. True love is an amazing experience that deserves some attention!