Everyone wants to be loved and accepted, but many of us spend too much time and energy worrying about what other people think. Are you constantly worried that people might be judging you and what you are doing?
If so, you may be worrying too much about what others think. But these kinds of mental gymnastics are unhealthy and stressful, making us feel unworthy and limiting our attention in the present moment. However, there are some things you can do to start making it easier for you. Here are some ways designed to help you stop worrying about what other people think and to maintain a healthy and happy relationship with yourself and others.
1. Understand why you care so much
Most of the time, the reason why we worry so much is developed through social norms. Society as a whole expects people to dress or act a certain way, and anything that strays away from that is too different to appreciate. This is where we can start to worry and develop a fear of being judged by others. Try to think about what you care about and why you care about it. Understanding is the first step. Know that it is not your fault and there is anything wrong with you. The society that you have grown up in contributes to this developed fear of rejection or judgment. Once you start to recognize this, it may become a lot easier to start accepting yourself.
2. Focus on being in the moment
When you are fretting about what other people think, you tend to miss some very important moments. When you truly focus on the present, you don't have time to worry about other things. Accept yourself by being present in the here and now.
3. Know that everyone feels that way sometimes
Everyone, including those who you may think are judging you, are focused on what people think of them. We all feel the same way sometimes, and we all have things to deal with. When you go out, you may be worrying that people are going to judge you based on what you wear or how you act. Most of us are thinking the same thing. For the most part, none of us really care about what anyone else is wearing or doing. Once you start to realize that most people have their own issues and worries, it's easier to stop worrying so much about what people think.
4. Find a role model
Find someone whose self-respect you admire and let them point you in the right direction. This can help allay your lack of confidence and help you envision the best future.
5. Remember that life is too short
We truly have only one life, so why waste it worrying about others? This is your life. Decide for yourself how you want to live and what you want to do. Focus on your goals and work towards achieving them. Even if you're worried what people might say, you must make a conscious effort to let go what other people think. It's a skill that needs to be practiced.
But once you understand how to stop caring, you will see the world entirely different. Remember, people can love you and hate you for things that are beyond your control. Own your choices and live by your decisions. When you do this, you'll gain the confidence you need and the power to give yourself what you want.