It's easy to love someone, but it isn't easy to apologize to them. Because apologies need an actual change where you need to restore trust and give the other person the opportunity to change their perception.
No matter how small or big the mistake is, if you love your partner in true sense, you will take the responsibility and make sure to rectify the situation. A heartfelt apology from your end will make your partner feel less hurt but words aren't enough unless you feel those emotions.
Once you confess that you have done something wrong and truly feel bad for it, you’ll know how to bring the change. Acting on your words is much more difficult than expressing what you feel. When you love someone, you show them how much they mean to you and how much you love them. But once you apologize and tell them how bad you feel after hurting them, your actions will determine how serious you are in the relationship.
You may cry, you may regret, you may even swear not to repeat what you did; it all comes down to what you do after your partner forgives you. Do you take their forgiveness for granted or do you really think twice before committing a mistake in the future? The choice is yours. Nobody can force you to change yourself if you are not willing to try.
Even after being hurt, your partner may eventually forgive you out of love. They will trust you that things will change, and that you won’t hurt them again. They understand your intentions and will give you a chance to make things right. So, utilize that opportunity and make them feel loved. Show them how much you value them by respecting their decision to forgive you. Don’t do anything that causes them pain.
If you don’t stick to your words, it will not just be bad for your relationship, but will also lead them to have trust issues. Remember that someone is putting so much faith and efforts to forgive you and putting you above their pain. It’s your responsibility to get them out of the painful situation and never break their trust.
If there’s something you can’t change, don’t give them any false hopes. It will just make things worse. Be honest and say what you feel. Even if it ends the relationship, you have to be genuine with your response. When two people share love and respect, they are willing to not just accept each other with their flaws but are also ready to make efforts to make life easier for one another.
Trust your partner for accepting you the way you are, but also value their opinions and try to find a middle ground when you two disagree on something. It can be difficult but it’s worth the efforts. At the end of it, you will get to live with the person who means the world to you. And when the love is true, things happen naturally. You don’t feel forced to act on your words. You want to do the best you can without anyone having to point it out. That’s the beauty of being in love.
So, next time you make a mistake and apologize to your partner, make sure you say what you feel. Don’t sugarcoat your words just for the sake of forgiveness. And if you promise them not to repeat your mistake, do everything in your capacity to act on your words. Don’t say sorry if you feel that you did nothing wrong. But if you do, show them that you deserve a chance and make things right as much as you can.