Scenario - you've been on a few dates with someone, and it's going terrifically. You really think that this relationship is something truly special and don't want to lose it. And that's when summer comes to an end. You're headed back to college. So is your new beau, but their college is hundreds of miles away. Do you call it quits, because college is a time of exploration and self-discovery? Or, do you do everything you can to make it work?
If you chose the latter, here are some tips to get you through the academic year while maintaining a budding, long-distance relationship.
Focus on the positives
They say that distance makes the heart grow fonder. Plan midway rendezvous points. Count down the days until the next break from college. Couples who find the positive aspects of their long-distance dating are more likely to stay together.
Have a Facetime, Skype, WhatsApp, Google Hangouts date
Sure, texting is great while in class. Talking on the phone is even better. But take advantage of what 21st century technology has to offer. It's so easy (and free) to video chat your significant other during a mutual spare time. Try to even schedule chats at specific times, as if you are going on a date. Being prompt let's your sweetheart know that you're still reliable and eager to spend time together. Setting up the dates in advance builds excitement.
Have a movie date
If you find yourself in a long-distance relationship, rent the same movie and play it at the exact same time. Call each other on the phone so you can make comments about the movie while watching.
Keep busy
If you're going to wait for an email or text response from your partner, you're going to get easily frustrated and concerned about the relationship. So, don't let that happen. Keep to the set video chat dates, and try to focus on… you know… college in the meantime. Stay busy by joining clubs, volunteering, or hanging out with friends.
Give each other space
As much as you would love to be in constant communication with each other, or plan meetups, or count down the days on your calendar before winter break, it's also perfectly healthy to take some time for yourself. Young adults in budding relationships should give each other space to grow as individuals - especially during college. Growth, learning, and exploration are what college is all about.
For a long-distance relationship to work, both parties must be equally dedicated to making it work. Enjoy the relationship, but try not to sacrifice too much.