A relationship is about two people embarking on a beautiful journey whereby both individuals are equally important. If either of the two individuals is neglected or treated differently, it's bound to have a negative impact on the relationship.
It's crucial for every person to know their own personal value. If you wish to assess your part in a relationship, ask yourself how well you know each other. If you have never seen them taking interest in things that matter to you, it's a sign that you are not being valued as much as you should be.
Here are six ways to help you understand your value in a relationship.
1. Feel equal to your partner
If you are in a relationship, make sure that your partner is treating you equal. Each partner is equally significant and should be treated that way. You can't consider someone inferior or superior than you if you're together. The two of you should get the same level of importance, and this must not be changed at any stage.
Observe how your partner treats you in front of friends. Do you both receive an equal level of respect from each other? If they neglect you, it's not a good sign for your relationship.
2. Make sure that you're heard
Make sure that your demands and expectations are both heard and valued. If you are the only one listening, ask your partner to return the respect you are giving them. You cannot make a relationship work if your lover is ignoring your desires and not addressing your concerns.
3. Respect both sides of the story
In a relationship, you both have the right to express your respective opinions. If your opinion is not getting its voice (see above), it's a bad sign for the relationship and you must fix it right away. You shouldn't be afraid to share your believes with your partner, or the relationship will be built on disinformation.
4. Decide major things together
There are times when couples have to make certain decisions. It's imperative for both partners to take part in the decision making process. Although the two of you may not agree and there may be some conflict, the only thing that matters is that both of you must be included to add value to the resulting decision.
Do you feel that you have to make compromises more than your partner? If yes, you must talk about it. It's not okay for them to take advantage of you. After all, you both should be equally ready to make adjustments and give up certain joys to make the other one happy.
5. Don't apologize for everything
Fights and conflicts are a part of every relationship. In order to reconcile, one of you will be required to step forward and apologize. At times, you may have to put your ego aside to end the conflict. Other times, your partner should take the initiative. If you are the one who is always trying to ease the tension, your voice will start to lose its importance.
It often happens that in love we refrain from giving our partner any chance of getting upset. If you are concerned about upsetting your partner, you should be. But what about your mood? Do they ever care as to what might hurt you or what they can do to set your mood right? Do they leave you on your own when you're upset under the pretext that they don't know how to handle it? Well, something's not quite right there.
6. Care about each other's life choices
When you're in a relationship, your partner is always there to help you through major life choices. From your career to home life, your partner should be the first one you tell. Couples always encourage each other to pursue dreams and make the most of opportunities. If you don't find your partner standing by your side, appreciating your efforts, they don't value you enough.